Milestones: Emilia is on the verge of walking. She gets around the house holding on to things, and can take a step by herself and also stand a bit before falling. I think if I had more time to spend with her alone, she would be walking by now. My older sister was also a very early walker – 9 months. After that, my mom discouraged me from walking too soon…haha! William and Jackson also pull themselves up, and William cruises almost as well as Emilia. All 3 can go from standing to sitting. This is a great recent development because Jackson was driving me crazy, screaming, refusing to sit on his own. Finally one day he did it (about 3 weeks after the other 2), and he’s much happier with the ability to pull himself up, sit back down, and crawl around. Emmy has 5 teeth and the boys have 8 each.
Emmy’s going through a night waking stage. Not sure if it’s teething. She usually wakes twice (maybe 12am and 4am), and we end up feeding and changing her. This is compounded by the fact that she is the worst sleeper; For months, she has been the first to wake from naps, and always the earliest riser. She probably averages 13 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period, whereas the boys average more like 15.
My sleeping issues are back full-force. I’ve learned insomnia is common among triplet moms, I don’t know why. When Emmy wakes, it’s rare I can fall back to sleep in fewer than 2-3 hours. After she woke at 3:30am last night, I tossed and turned (luckily Jason can sleep through my restlessness) until 5:30, at which point I decided I was wasting time, lying there thinking about my research, my classes, students, and on, and on…when I could be getting stuff done. Still, unless I get up very early (like 4am), I never get time to myself. When I get up, it ends up being very enjoyable. I can actually hear the news while I work, and my attention is divided 2 ways, instead of 4, so I’m more productive.
I try to keep the kids within the “normal” range of development, but sometimes I lag behind. Like the finger foods. I can’t do it. Is there a benefit to encouraging them to eat finger foods? I mean, it’s not like they will forever be behind in their abilities to hold carrots, right? I’m terrified of choking, and besides, they won’t eat the good stuff – just crap I’d rather not give them. Of course, they’ll eat anything in baby food. I’d rather have then eating purred broccoli instead of cheerios they can feed to themselves. Yes, it is more work for me…
Even with 3 babies, I’m no expert; quite the opposite. When I make a mistake, it’s three-fold. With one at a time, mistakes you make on the first one are buffered by extra attention, and fewer mistakes are exchanged for less attention as more babies arrive. It just doesn’t work that way with first-born babies who happen to be triplets. You make mistakes, and you can not buffer them by more attention. I worry about my mistakes constantly.
The boys play very well together, and Emilia, not as well, but she’s getting better. Observing closely, I notice the ID boys give up toys to each other and Emmy, but not vice versa. The obvious theory is that the boys have been sharing a very tight space since birth, working together to survive since conception, so it’s only natural they share well. Emmy (who had her own sac), had no idea about other babies, and never fought for space. Now born, she gets super-frustrated when it comes to sharing. People have actually used the word “bully,” or “pushy,” to describe Emmy. I think they’re wrong; it’s because they compare her to the relationship the IDs have, which is succinct and harmonious. Also, the boys are the same sex! If you compare the IDs and Emmy, it’s easy to conclude she is difficult. In actuality, she acts just like any other singleton (who doesn’t get enough attention).
Jason quit his full-time, away-from-home job and went back to his full-time, work-from-home job. Clearly the right decision, but something we couldn’t predict at the time. The surprise pregnancy panicked us, and Jason decided to go back to a “stable” job with benefits. Turns out, the benefits weren’t worth the cost of gas and a nanny, no where near it (they quoted us at $800 a month for health and dental). Now we save around $2300 a month in gas and a nanny. Jason’s clients continue to provide him a steady stream of work and he watches the babies while I’m at school. We can easily maintain as long as Jason continues to get enough work (anyone looking for a great front-end web developer: www.squareorangellc.com). Most importantly, I see the close relationship developing between him and the babies, and as the the commercial suggests, it’s “priceless.”