Keeping the blog going has been a big decision for me. I felt comfortable blogging about my pregnancy, but less so when it comes to blogging about the babies. I’m not sure if it’s fair to them that I let the world in on their lives. I’ve decided to continue, but minimize the details of the triplets’ lives, and focus more on the task of raising them.
During the early stages of life, weight gain is top priority. We feed every three hours, and try to stick to the schedule unless one seems especially hungry, which happens frequently enough. We were feeding on demand, but that became impossible because someone was always needing to be fed, burped or changed 24/7, and that’s impossible to maintain if only one person takes care of the babies at a time.
The boys are very attentive and “awake”. Like their appearances, notable differences in their behaviors are not yet apparent. Talk about identical. There’s no way to figure out who’s who without looking at the painted toenail. They’re also fairly inconsistent and unpredictable in their behaviors. I never know if they’ll be fussy or peaceful. They both fuss between feedings and require a good deal of attention. I’m wondering about reflux because they seem to cry for no reason, unlike Emilia.
Emilia is a sleepy baby. She’s a big eater and consistent in her weight gain, and sleeps between all feedings. She’s quite a bit bigger than the boys. She rarely ever fusses or cries, to the point where I’m wondering if something’s wrong because she’s so quiet and content! I often feel guilty about not holding her enough because she’s so undemanding.
It’s still very stressful taking care of the babies alone. I guess I thought they would be clones of each other – that they would eat and sleep at the same time, and I would have time in between for other stuff–like sleeping…:) Yet, it’s rare when a baby doesn’t need of some type of attention. I can barely do a load of laundry or unload the dishwasher without someone crying, day or night, much less eat or sleep at all. I really hope they synch up soon because I don’t know if we can keep going like this! Tunnel vision is setting in; I can’t see the forest because of the trees. Feeding, burping and changing diapers is not super difficult, but not being able to anticipate needs is very trying. Not knowing why or when a baby cries, or how to stop baby from fussing, leaves us in a constant state of heightened tension; I spend my days bracing myself for their next cries–knowing they’re coming, but not knowing when or why. This is where the stress is, the bracing all day and all night. The actual work is easy. I have no idea how any mother could take care of triplets alone, especially if one or more were fussy. There is absolutely no way Jason and I could do this without full-time help from at least one other person, we know that now.
Healing from the c-section is slow. By day 8 I was able to get out of bed in just a minute or two, but prior to that, it was taking me up to 10 minutes to get out of bed. Case in point: On day 10 post-surgery, I was laying on the couch with fussy baby. After he quieted, I attempted to get up , but I moved too quickly, and it was so painful I cried out and fell back on the couch with the baby still on my chest and my feet flat on the the floor. Funny enough, my mom was just coming into the living room when she heard me huffing and puffing, and ran over thinking something bad had happened. Nope. Just pinned on the couch by a baby! She quickly lifted him off me. So, I have a long way to go before I’m 100%. :)
We’ve received lots of gifts and money from our families and friends, and we both thank you very, very much. We’ve been able to use everything that’s been given to us. I keep the registry updated as well. Again, we’re willing to take used clothes and baby supplies. I haven’t had to buy any clothes, and that’s allowed us to save our money for formula and diapers. As of right now, we have enough clothes for all three babies until they are 6 months or so, but we can still use clothes for after six months and more. Already the babies have grown out of stuff! We’re packing things up to send to the next triplet family, which we have lined up already!!
Family and friends have also brought us food, and again, we are very, very grateful for that as well. Jason’s mom sent us a delicious bouquet of fruit, and I, of course, devoured the chocolate covered strawberries immediately! :) I forget who’s offered to bring food, but please let me know if you would like to. It’s pretty difficult to even fit a shower in, much less make a meal around here, so food by any means is a very valuable commodity!! :)
We recently received the cutest stuff animals from babyage.com, but we have no idea who sent them! I’ve tried to contact babyage, but was unable to get through to a human. If you sent us 3 stuffed pull toys from baby age, please let us know they were from you!